https://new.cupaobaidou.com/tag/%E6%83%85%E7%BB%AA/Recent content in 情绪 on 醋泡白豆Hugozh-CNFri, 26 Jan 2024 19:40:45 +0800https://new.cupaobaidou.com/archives/550/Wed, 20 Oct 2021 11:11:00 +0800https://new.cupaobaidou.com/archives/550/<section style="line-height: 2; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; padding: 0px 10px; box-sizing: border-box; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; text-align: justify; visibility: visible;"><section style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="white-space: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"></p><p style="white-space: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;">关键词：愤怒</strong></p><p style="white-space: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"></p><p style="white-space: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;">实际写于：2021年10月6日</strong></span></p><p style="white-space: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"></strong></span></p></section><section style="text-align: center; margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block; vertical-align: middle; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><section style="width: 6px; height: 6px; display: inline-block; vertical-align: middle; border-radius: 100%; background-color: rgb(127, 161, 191); box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;" data-style="width: 6px; height: 6px; display: inline-block; vertical-align: middle; border-radius: 100%; background-color: rgb(127, 161, 191); box-sizing: border-box;" class="js_darkmode__0"><section style="visibility: visible;"><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float: left; line-height: 0; width: 0px; vertical-align: top; visibility: visible;"></svg></section></section><section style="width: 3em; border-top: 2px solid rgb(127, 161, 191); display: inline-block; vertical-align: middle; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><section style="visibility: visible;"><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float: left; line-height: 0; width: 0px; vertical-align: top; visibility: visible;"></svg></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block; vertical-align: middle; padding-left: 5px; padding-right: 5px; font-size: 23px; box-sizing: border-box; min-width: 1.2em !important; visibility: visible;"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;">01</p></section><section style="display: inline-block; vertical-align: middle; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><section style="width: 3em; border-top: 2px solid rgb(127, 161, 191); display: inline-block; vertical-align: middle; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><section style="visibility: visible;"><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float: left; line-height: 0; width: 0px; vertical-align: top; visibility: visible;"></svg></section></section><section style="width: 6px; height: 6px; display: inline-block; vertical-align: middle; border-radius: 100%; background-color: rgb(127, 161, 191); box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;" data-style="width: 6px; height: 6px; display: inline-block; vertical-align: middle; border-radius: 100%; background-color: rgb(127, 161, 191); box-sizing: border-box;" class="js_darkmode__1"><section style="visibility: visible;"><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float: left; line-height: 0; width: 0px; vertical-align: top; visibility: visible;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="white-space: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"></p><p style="white-space: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;">国庆在河北待的最后一天，晚上坐在solo coffee 书咖的座位上，突然发现自己好像变了得平和了——以前回家，如果家里吵架的话，自己还是会情绪上愤怒，并表现出来的。</p><p style="white-space: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"></p><p style="white-space: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;">为什么不愤怒？</p><p style="white-space: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"></p><p style="white-space: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;">因为没有必要；因为有更好的解决方法；因为那不是一个问题。</strong></p><p style="white-space: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"></p><p style="white-space: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;">这里谈的愤怒，是指因现实生活中的事件，造成情绪上波动，而在实际中表现出行为上的失控、言语加重倾向不文明用词、甚至是肢体上的暴力倾向。</p><p style="white-space: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"></p><p style="white-space: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;">日本侵华历史，读了不可能不愤怒；</p><p style="white-space: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;">家中亲朋好友遭受不明不白的不公，情绪上也不可能不愤怒；</p><p style="white-space: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;">对虐猫虐狗虐待狂，也不可能笑哈哈。</p><p style="white-space: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"></p><p style="white-space: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;">不愤怒，是说自己最近几年变得更平和了一些。</p><p style="white-space: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"></p></section><section style="text-align: center; margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block; vertical-align: middle; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><section style="width: 6px; height: 6px; display: inline-block; vertical-align: middle; border-radius: 100%; background-color: rgb(127, 161, 191); box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;" data-style="width: 6px; height: 6px; display: inline-block; vertical-align: middle; border-radius: 100%; background-color: rgb(127, 161, 191); box-sizing: border-box;" class="js_darkmode__2"><section style="visibility: visible;"><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float: left; line-height: 0; width: 0px; vertical-align: top; visibility: visible;"></svg></section></section><section style="width: 3em; border-top: 2px solid rgb(127, 161, 191); display: inline-block; vertical-align: middle; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><section style="visibility: visible;"><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float: left; line-height: 0; width: 0px; vertical-align: top; visibility: visible;"></svg></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block; vertical-align: middle; padding-left: 5px; padding-right: 5px; font-size: 23px; box-sizing: border-box; min-width: 1.2em !important; visibility: visible;"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;">02</p></section><section style="display: inline-block; vertical-align: middle; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><section style="width: 3em; border-top: 2px solid rgb(127, 161, 191); display: inline-block; vertical-align: middle; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><section style="visibility: visible;"><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float: left; line-height: 0; width: 0px; vertical-align: top; visibility: visible;"></svg></section></section><section style="width: 6px; height: 6px; display: inline-block; vertical-align: middle; border-radius: 100%; background-color: rgb(127, 161, 191); box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;" data-style="width: 6px; height: 6px; display: inline-block; vertical-align: middle; border-radius: 100%; background-color: rgb(127, 161, 191); box-sizing: border-box;" class="js_darkmode__3"><section style="visibility: visible;"><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float: left; line-height: 0; width: 0px; vertical-align: top; visibility: visible;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="white-space: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"></p><p style="white-space: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;">很多愤怒是没有必要的</strong>，现实生活中由“瞅你咋样”引起的争斗，是风险极高，回报极低的行为之一。在相对文明的社会中，基本已经不需要实际真的采用暴力，来确定自我的社会地位了。</p><p style="white-space: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;">人类社会的本质是利益分配，由“瞅你咋地”引发的暴力，完全属于负和博弈，没有创造任何新的价值，生产效率也不会得到提高。打赢了进局子，打输了进医院，对于双方均无好处，胜者获得卑微的一点“胜利感”，也会只会让不成熟的人，产生奇葩的敬佩。</p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;">当然处于混乱无秩序的环境中，一场暴力打斗，参与还是很有必要，获胜的带来的长期收益要多于现代法治社会。</p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">也有一些愤怒，可以有更好的解决方式。</strong>在各种关系中，人都是极其容易受到环境和自我激素上的影响。</p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;">Stop with a Y. 当受到外界刺激，加之自己身体处于一个不佳状态——缺少睡眠和锻炼，长时间从事不喜欢的工作，这时候很容易就爆了。</p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;">愤怒的情绪当然需要宣泄口，但不是向外界的人，无脑倾倒自己的情绪，采取过激的行为。停下来，问自己一个why，询问一下自己是为什么会产生这样的负面情绪，以及为什么在此情况下自己想要做的是破坏行为。了解了原因，就会发现有更好的解决方式，比如了冷处理，比如限定发火，比如提前预设置愤怒情绪疏导流程。</p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">更多时候那不是一个问题，或者自己需要outgrow这个问题。</strong>对于在地铁上被人挤掉鞋子而产生的愤怒，其实多了解一下当地的交通人口情况，会发现是个概率事件，我在千万人口，高峰时期运力不足，大家都心烦气躁的时间被挤了，是时间长了肯定会发生的事情。</p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;">想要不再遭遇这样事情，不是对车厢里的人施以暴力，而是想方法挪到近的地方上班，或者财富自由之后就不需要上班了。</p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;">这种行为可能剥离了自己作为社会一份子，促进社会文明发展的责任，但，这个事情有点难度，外人很难改变，我觉得我就不掺和了，不给社会增加更多的戾气，是在近阶段能够追求的目标了。</p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;">不论是何种原因，不愤怒，更平静， 貌似都是在和自己花更多时间相处，更加了解自己的基础之上逐渐变如此。</p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;">人一生的任务之一就是要认识自己。</p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;">当然发脾气的时候也不能当老好人。</p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section></section>