https://new.cupaobaidou.com/tag/%E7%99%BD%E8%B1%86/Recent content in 白豆 on 醋泡白豆Hugozh-CNWed, 20 Aug 2025 16:26:43 +0800https://new.cupaobaidou.com/archives/1211/Sat, 16 Aug 2025 16:26:00 +0800https://new.cupaobaidou.com/archives/1211/<section style="line-height: 2; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; padding: 0px 10px; box-sizing: border-box; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; text-align: justify; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); visibility: visible;"><section style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><p style="white-space: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><span leaf="" style="visibility: visible;"><br style="visibility: visible;"></span></p><p style="white-space: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><span leaf="" style="visibility: visible;">在新的环境或新的人面前，往往要自我介绍。</span></p><p style="white-space: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><span leaf="" style="visibility: visible;">在自己的社交媒体上也需要有个简短的自我介绍，这一直是一件让我挠头的事。</span></p><p style="white-space: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><span leaf="" style="visibility: visible;"><br style="visibility: visible;"></span></p><p style="white-space: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><span leaf="" style="visibility: visible;">在个人网站的关于页面，我模仿 Derek Sivers 用过去自己做过的事，来介绍自己。已经两年多没有更新了。cupaobaidou.com/me</span></p></section><section style="line-height: 0; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><section style="max-width: 100%; vertical-align: middle; display: inline-block; line-height: 0; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;" nodeleaf=""><img class="rich_pages wxw-img" data-ratio="1.6268518518518518" data-s="300,640" data-w="1080" style="vertical-align: middle; max-width: 100%; width: 657px !important; box-sizing: border-box; height: auto !important; visibility: visible !important;" data-original-style="vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;" data-index="1" src="https://new.cupaobaidou.com/usr/uploads/2025/08/2469196255.png" _width="100%" alt="Image" data-report-img-idx="0" data-fail="0"></section></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">几个月之前，这个账号的介绍还是「一个学了四年日语，但做了五年英语导游的大饼爱好者。」</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">用听上去有些冲突的经历，和莫名的黑话，这些经历来介绍自己。</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">&nbsp;这样有两个问题：&nbsp;</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">&nbsp;1、按时间线经历太详细，太长，无法压缩到一分钟就能说完；</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">&nbsp;2、身份定义又太单薄，且需要不断更新。</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">&nbsp;当然自我介绍本就是动态的，人也在不断变化。&nbsp;</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">我之前这些介绍方式， 都是避免了自己去立场鲜明地、用有价值倾向的形容词去介绍自己。 用做过的事，更客观介绍自己。</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">这样做， 也失去了用「自我介绍」来更好了解自己的机会。</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">所以大概有一年的时间，我都在刻意去找些有价值倾向的词，尝试描述自己。希望准确，又不要太冗长。</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">&nbsp;终于，在年初的时候，我找到了三个词，两个形容词一个名词，这三个词同时也是一本书的书名。</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">&nbsp;Friendly</span></strong></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">&nbsp;Ambitious</span></strong></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">&nbsp;Nerd</span></strong></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"></strong></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">&nbsp;友好的、雄心壮志的、书呆子</span></strong></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></p></section><section style="line-height: 0;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;border-style: ridge;border-width: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;" nodeleaf=""><img class="rich_pages wxw-img js_img_placeholder wx_img_placeholder" data-ratio="1.6213991769547325" data-s="300,640" data-w="972" style="vertical-align: middle; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 657px !important; height: 1065.26px !important;" data-original-style="vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;" data-index="2" src="https://new.cupaobaidou.com/usr/uploads/2025/08/1984246144.png" _width="100%" alt="Image"></section></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">还没有开始读这本书前，就感觉到这是我的词；读完更加确认了。</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">而且顺序也是目前我喜欢的描述顺序—— Friendly、Ambitious、Nerd</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></p></section><section style="margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 44%;box-sizing: border-box;"><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;" role="img" aria-label="插图"></svg></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 12%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="margin: -4px 0% 0px;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 1.8em;height: 1.8em;line-height: 1.8em;border-radius: 100%;margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);border: 1px solid rgb(173, 46, 46);background-color: rgb(173, 46, 46);box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">1</span></p></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 44%;box-sizing: border-box;"><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;" role="img" aria-label="插图"></svg></section></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(173, 46, 46);box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">Friendly ，友好的。</span></span></strong></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">有「朋友」（friend）在里面， 它意味着我自己要成为一个有益的存在，能给社区或其他人带来增益，别人会因为我的存在而更好。</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">同时，也要求更好处理自己的欲望和不安， 处理自己的自恋、自我、嫉妒，以一个更富足的心态对待他人。还是有些难度。</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">毕竟之前我干过宿舍晚上说话被扣分，试图和老师解释，把自己摘出去的事。</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">最近十年，更多地感受到有朋友的幸福，无论是大学做领队认识的朋友们、现在的网上邻居、豆摇峰、铀学之士，还是各种途径认识的朋友们，都是成为现在自己最核心的影响因素。&nbsp;</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">打开更多世界、带来更多角度、也帮我更深入了解自己。</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">所以第一个词是 Friendly，很贴切。</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></p></section><section style="margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 44%;box-sizing: border-box;"><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;" role="img" aria-label="插图"></svg></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 12%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="margin: -4px 0% 0px;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 1.8em;height: 1.8em;line-height: 1.8em;border-radius: 100%;margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);border: 1px solid rgb(173, 46, 46);background-color: rgb(173, 46, 46);box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">2</span></p></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 44%;box-sizing: border-box;"><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;" role="img" aria-label="插图"></svg></section></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(173, 46, 46);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">Ambitious，雄心壮志的。</span></strong></span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(173, 46, 46);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></strong></span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">并不是对名和利的渴望，而是关于「更多」，我想要「了解更多」「学习更深」「做的更好」，无论在什么阶段，都还能持续去挑战自己，在时间线上不断成长，成为「故事中的动态人物」。</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">持续不断读1000本书、 记录100期公开周报、填1000表单，这些虽是形式上的Ambitious，但至少在做了。&nbsp;</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></p></section><section style="margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 44%;box-sizing: border-box;"><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;" role="img" aria-label="插图"></svg></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 12%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="margin: -4px 0% 0px;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="border: 1px solid rgb(173, 46, 46);background-color: rgb(173, 46, 46);display: inline-block;width: 1.8em;height: 1.8em;line-height: 1.8em;border-radius: 100%;margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">3</span></p></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 44%;box-sizing: border-box;"><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;" role="img" aria-label="插图"></svg></section></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(173, 46, 46);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">Nerd，书呆子。</span></strong></span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">书呆子气，它代表着对于自己好奇心的探索，对于自己觉得有趣事情的诚实。 哪怕一般外界会觉得无意义或愚蠢， 也有勇气，去坐下来持续投入时间和精力，做自己感兴趣的事， 并且记录和展示出来。</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">记忆背诵北京所有的地铁站名、挑战每周给朋友送礼物、记录每次见面、周末聚众和朋友们在咖啡厅自习加班、间歇性复习自己莫名奇妙的冷笑话等等是我自认为做的一些 Nerd 气质类的事。当然还有一些忘记了或者不便写出来。</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">Nerd 很有趣，世界上有趣美好的东西很多都是有 Nerd 气质的人做出来的。</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf="">喜欢这三个词，这个阶段，我用它们来描述自己。</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span leaf=""><br></span></p></section><section class="mp_profile_iframe_wrp" nodeleaf=""><mp-common-profile class="js_uneditable custom_select_card mp_profile_iframe mp_common_widget js_wx_tap_highlight" data-pluginname="mpprofile" data-nickname="醋泡白豆" data-alias="cpbd1121" data-from="0" data-headimg="http://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_png/4ADhmAJPyqCfQIeWCibmq12nNoQPoovmGAkQXibbHrPEWd6dbEMeXDsHmR2FvB44AqgIod9yvnvRyOiaOAicCc7C1g/300?wx_fmt=png&amp;wxfrom=19" data-signature="Friendly Ambitious Nerd设计有趣支持系统 煽风点火个人生活" data-id="MzI2OTIxMTg1Nw==" data-is_biz_ban="0" data-service_type="1" data-verify_status="0" data-origin_num="262" data-isban="0" data-biz_account_status="0" data-index="0"></mp-common-profile></section><p style="white-space: normal;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span 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