https://new.cupaobaidou.com/tag/%E9%81%97%E6%84%BF%E6%B8%85%E5%8D%95/Recent content in 遗愿清单 on 醋泡白豆Hugozh-CNWed, 24 Jan 2024 19:11:24 +0800https://new.cupaobaidou.com/archives/626/Tue, 14 Dec 2021 22:22:00 +0800https://new.cupaobaidou.com/archives/626/<section style="line-height: 2; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; padding: 0px 10px; box-sizing: border-box; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400; text-align: justify; visibility: visible;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;">人们会想尽办法，各种荒谬的办法，来避免面对自己的灵魂。——荣格</strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"></strong></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"></p></section><section style="text-align: center; margin: 10px 0%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block; min-width: 10%; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: top; line-height: 0; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><section style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block; min-width: 10%; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: top; border-bottom: 2px solid rgb(62, 62, 62); border-bottom-right-radius: 0px; line-height: 0; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;" data-style="display: inline-block; min-width: 10%; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: top; border-bottom: 2px solid rgb(62, 62, 62); border-bottom-right-radius: 0px; line-height: 0; box-sizing: border-box;" class="js_darkmode__0"><section style="transform: translate3d(3px, 0px, 0px); margin: 0px 0% 5px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="line-height: 1; padding: 0px 3px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;">&nbsp;“无用”的遗愿清单</strong></p></section></section><section style="text-align: left; transform: translate3d(-25px, 0px, 0px); margin: -22px 0% 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block; width: 30px; height: 25px; vertical-align: top; overflow: hidden; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><section style="line-height: 1; font-size: 17px; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><span style="text-shadow: rgb(171, 224, 225) 1.73205px 1px 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;" data-style="text-shadow: rgb(171, 224, 225) 1.73205px 1px 0px; box-sizing: border-box;" class="js_darkmode__1"><em style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;">01</strong></em></span></p></section></section></section></section></section><section style="text-align: right; margin: -13px 0% 0px; transform: translate3d(-30px, 0px, 0px) rotateY(180deg); box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block; width: 37px; height: 20px; vertical-align: top; overflow: hidden; background-position: 50% 50%; background-repeat: no-repeat; background-size: contain; background-attachment: scroll; border-width: 0px; background-image: url(&quot;https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_jpg/PJlRribMEuBDR6ia2ql8icCILpubOJQgO7B097pNX89ZscsOUTBENk35g0b0BDEMdmFKQ5U4vWpOvsBic1bL471vXQ/640?wx_fmt=jpeg&quot;); box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;" class="js_darkmode__bg__0 js_darkmode__2" data-style="display: inline-block; width: 37px; height: 20px; vertical-align: top; overflow: hidden; background-position: 50% 50%; background-repeat: no-repeat; background-size: contain; background-attachment: scroll; border-width: 0px; background-image: url(&quot;https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_jpg/PJlRribMEuBDR6ia2ql8icCILpubOJQgO7B097pNX89ZscsOUTBENk35g0b0BDEMdmFKQ5U4vWpOvsBic1bL471vXQ/640?wx_fmt=jpeg&quot;); box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="line-height: 0; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"></p></section></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;">遗愿清单只是在安慰自己。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;">上周在阅读了《或许你想找个人聊聊》，对其中的一个情节印象很深刻：</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;">艺术家 Candy zhang在2009年把新奥尔良一处的公共外墙改造成了黑板，并在上面留了一道选择题：在我死亡之前，我想.......</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;">几天之内墙就被填满了，人们留下了各种答案：在我死亡之前，我想跨国国际日期变更线；我想养一只猴子；我想做完全的自己.....</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"></p></section><section style="text-align: center; margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="max-width: 100%; vertical-align: middle; display: inline-block; line-height: 0; box-sizing: border-box; visibility: visible;"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img" data-ratio="0.6393443" data-type="png" data-w="976" style="vertical-align: middle; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; height: auto !important; visibility: visible !important; width: 657px !important;" data-original-style="vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;" data-index="1" src="https://new.cupaobaidou.com/usr/uploads/2024/01/1778506764.png" _width="677px" crossorigin="anonymous" alt="Image" data-fail="0"></section></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="text-align: center;margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;box-sizing: border-box;"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img js_img_placeholder wx_img_placeholder" data-ratio="0.5616667" data-type="jpeg" data-w="600" style="vertical-align: middle; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 600px !important; height: 337px !important;" data-original-style="vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;" data-index="2" src="https://new.cupaobaidou.com/usr/uploads/2024/01/540904202.png" _width="600px" crossorigin="anonymous" alt="Image"></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;">这样的问题我在大概五年前的时候就问过自己，并且记得当时还用两页的纸把自己所有想干的事情记录了下来，不过那张纸已经不知道到哪里去了。</p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;">探索了一下自己的灵魂，在遗愿清单上多加了几个很刺激的愿望，然后就没有然后了，死亡或者自己制定的截止日期也只存在了假想中。</p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;">健康的时候我们尝试罗列遗愿清单为了让自己少一些遗憾，但实际上，我们却靠它来回避死亡，遗愿清单越长，在我们的想象中自己还能活的时间就越长。其实谁都不知道那一天会什么时候来。</p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;">只要当身边的亲人朋友离开的时候，我们才会短暂思考死亡这个话题。</p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="text-align: center;margin: 10px 0%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;min-width: 10%;max-width: 100%;vertical-align: top;line-height: 0;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;min-width: 10%;max-width: 100%;vertical-align: top;border-bottom: 2px solid rgb(62, 62, 62);border-bottom-right-radius: 0px;line-height: 0;box-sizing: border-box;" data-style="display: inline-block; min-width: 10%; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: top; border-bottom: 2px solid rgb(62, 62, 62); border-bottom-right-radius: 0px; line-height: 0; box-sizing: border-box;" class="js_darkmode__3"><section style="transform: translate3d(3px, 0px, 0px);-webkit-transform: translate3d(3px, 0px, 0px);-moz-transform: translate3d(3px, 0px, 0px);-o-transform: translate3d(3px, 0px, 0px);margin: 0px 0% 5px;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="line-height: 1;padding: 0px 3px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">否认机制</strong></p></section></section><section style="text-align: left;transform: translate3d(-25px, 0px, 0px);-webkit-transform: translate3d(-25px, 0px, 0px);-moz-transform: translate3d(-25px, 0px, 0px);-o-transform: translate3d(-25px, 0px, 0px);margin: -22px 0% 0px;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 30px;height: 25px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="line-height: 1;font-size: 17px;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="text-shadow: rgb(171, 224, 225) 1.73205px 1px 0px;box-sizing: border-box;" data-style="text-shadow: rgb(171, 224, 225) 1.73205px 1px 0px; box-sizing: border-box;" class="js_darkmode__4"><em style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">02</strong></em></span></p></section></section></section></section></section><section style="text-align: right;margin: -13px 0% 0px;transform: translate3d(-30px, 0px, 0px) rotateY(180deg);-webkit-transform: translate3d(-30px, 0px, 0px) rotateY(180deg);-moz-transform: translate3d(-30px, 0px, 0px) rotateY(180deg);-o-transform: translate3d(-30px, 0px, 0px) rotateY(180deg);box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 37px;height: 20px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-position: 50% 50%;background-repeat: no-repeat;background-size: contain;background-attachment: scroll;border-width: 0px;background-image: url(&quot;https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_jpg/PJlRribMEuBDR6ia2ql8icCILpubOJQgO7B097pNX89ZscsOUTBENk35g0b0BDEMdmFKQ5U4vWpOvsBic1bL471vXQ/640?wx_fmt=jpeg&quot;);box-sizing: border-box;" class="js_darkmode__bg__1 js_darkmode__5" data-style="display: inline-block; width: 37px; height: 20px; vertical-align: top; overflow: hidden; background-position: 50% 50%; background-repeat: no-repeat; background-size: contain; background-attachment: scroll; border-width: 0px; background-image: url(&quot;https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_jpg/PJlRribMEuBDR6ia2ql8icCILpubOJQgO7B097pNX89ZscsOUTBENk35g0b0BDEMdmFKQ5U4vWpOvsBic1bL471vXQ/640?wx_fmt=jpeg&quot;); box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="line-height: 0;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section></section></section></section></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;">如果换个方式，把制定好的遗愿清单放到桌子上好好审视，然后要求自己用笔一个个划掉自己的遗愿，人体的否认机制可能会帮上忙，心理上会有一种莫名的微小损害。</p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;">虽然是在假设自己在失去做那些事情的可能性，但这种行为会迫使我们去面对一个严峻的事实：我们所拥有的可能性在逐渐减小，最终会迎来人生的结束。</p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;">每次回家陪伴自己年长的长辈，不经意间看到他们逐渐浑浊的眼球，就会意识到自己在成长，长辈们也在向终点迈步。</p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;">前一段时间总有一种冲动想把终点具象化，比如说买一个一比一的骷髅头放在书桌上，但怕这种行为过于怪异吓到女朋友，自己半夜看到也可能被吓到，遂罢。</p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;">我最近发现定时写一些东西，能迫使自己把近期离散的注意力集中到自己想做的事情上来。因为不知道写什么的时候总会对意义、死亡这些大的话题进行思考。</p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="text-align: center;margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;box-sizing: border-box;"><img class="rich_pages wxw-img js_img_placeholder wx_img_placeholder" data-ratio="0.6666667" data-type="jpeg" data-w="1080" style="vertical-align: middle; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 657px !important; height: 438px !important;" data-original-style="vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;" data-index="3" src="https://new.cupaobaidou.com/usr/uploads/2024/01/4205575060.png" _width="677px" crossorigin="anonymous" alt="Image"></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;">日常生活的惯性太大了，以至于偶尔的想法在一两周都被琐事淹没了，遗愿清单虽没有很大的用处，但把列好的单子放在随处可见的地方，每天划掉一两个，还是有可能帮上点忙。</p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></strong><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section></section>